You need to talk to someone and get some good, qualified help in dealing with it.īecause men are taught to be self-reliant and girls are taught to be nurturing and protective, females who have been victims of incest may find it hard to admit the abuse for fear of "destroying" the family. So this is why counselling is so cruical and important. You can't depend on family support-this will devastate them all.
Sibling incest can occur out of a set of needs that both siblings have, such as a desire for affection and combating loneliness. Your shame of what happened is likely affecting you so adversely, you could eventually experience many problems such as depression-related to anger, guilt, self-doubt, self-blame and depression.
It's likely you feel that you have to remain silent about what happened and worse, you will often feel that you were to blame for what happened to you. The reason you need to talk about this to a therapist is because the secrecy aspect of sibling incest is very damaging to the female involved. This may be the only way you can heal from this trauma or it will haunt you forever. Reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005):Īs a first step, you can share this with a good, qualified family therapist, perferably one who deals in family incest. Good luck with ur secrets by the way u are too naughty for a sister I pray for you, may my God forgive you, and take out this trauma out of ur heart and ur mind and ur life and make you feel better. My last advice is dont ruin urself any furthur dont tell anyone about it, keep it as a secret between each other go to church and confess it and ask for forgivness. In a way u are very kind and too lovey for not breaking his heart but in another hand a guilty mom or sister for offering sex to ur drunk bro excuse me u sound alcholic to me and so does your handsome and sexy bro no hard feeling, flirty sista who close her eyes and wanted to please herself, Good gys neva ask their sisters to sleep with them. It does happen, I neva blame you neither your bro, the best thing is neva drink with your bro again, and neva be so soft to find yourself naked in the arms of your married bro at age of 29 thought u were 9 but u are an adult how could u commit such a big sin jesus, u r both married and he is your bro ( I hope this trauma never live with u all ur life and u both be forgiven, amen, Reader, Tim +, writes (27 November 2005): Reader, diamondcitygyrl +, writes (18 December 2007): Yes you should take it to your grave or talk to your brother about it and see what he thinks about it maybe he feels how you feel Reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Is this something I can ever share or do I take it to the grave with me?įancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! The next day he asked me did I usually practise safe sex, I think he was worried about disease. It was the furthest thing from my mind, but because I love my brother so much I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I agreed.Īt least that's what I think happened. I hardly remember what happened, but I remember him asking me to go to bed with him. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle of whiskey between us. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. I understand that happens, he's a boy after all, but I'm his sister? I feel like it's my fault for wearing something like that around him (it actually was 3 inches above my knee, so it wasn't at all that short except when I sat down and it would rise.) We haven't said anything to each other since then, and I honestly don't even know WHAT to say since I feel all awkward and uncomfortable around him now.Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help! It was scaring me a little, so I tried to descretely move onto his thigh, but he noticed, and was like "Oh.Sorry about.Ummm that happens when.yeah." and he was really red, so I didn't want to embarrass him more, so I was just like, "What?" but he knew I was lying, and I felt bad for him. Then I could feel his."thing" coming up, and he was like breathing heavily, and shaking.
My brother (btw he's 15 and I'm 16) wanted me to sit on his lap, but I really didn't want to since the dress I was wearing rose a few inches when sitting down and it was sleeveless, so I just didn't wanna be on my little brother like that! He's bigger than me, so he just pulled me onto him, anr eventually I just sat there, and was like whatever. I just made this like 5 minutes ago, so I have no idea what I'm doing, so please bear with me, haha Well anywaaaays: We have a Christmas eve party every year, so a whole bunch of our family and friends were at our house, and there really wasn't enough space for all of us to sit in the living room all at once.